Little Owl Spiritual Messages from Shirley Humphreys-Battie


Forgiveness

One of the most important things you can do for your own personal development is to forgive. It is all very well to say ‘love one another’ but when you cannot feel it in your heart it is of no benefit for you to know this concept. Regarding forgiveness – how can you truly arrive at forgiving someone that has done you such a disservice in your life that it rankles within you no matter how hard you try to eliminate it?

 

The first step is to understand the other party, and that includes you. Quite often it is difficult for you to forgive yourself for something you did in error of judgement, and you and others have suffered as a consequence. So the first thing is to understand, either yourself or the other party. If it is yourself or the other party, perhaps one individual, perhaps a group of individuals at fault, then look honestly at the circumstances. Look beyond the action or the situation, whether it be a one instance or a drawn out condition.  Look to see why the other party conducted themselves as they did. Go further so that you may understand what led up to it. This might require some work on your part. Perhaps it was up-bringing; perhaps it was a pattern being repeated brought down from parental behaviour. Perhaps it was circumstances beyond that party’s control, and they acted according to what they considered to be the best course of action and not thinking of consequences or reaction of those around them.

 

When you have understood you may find it easier in your heart to forgive. All individuals act in the best interests, according to their mind set. They do not consider they are acting irrationally or in error. They may think of this later, but at the time they do not.

 

How often have you as an individual committed an act that you now are ashamed of, or which has had terrible consequences, or of which you now feel guilty and cannot undo whatever damage there may have been?  Even you, when you behave in any way whatsoever, you act according to the current situations at the time, and from your perspective act for a betterment of that situation. Sometimes there is an error of judgement and not a deliberate bad act intended to hurt others. So forgive yourself for inexperience, for bad judgement.  How can you be all wise at all times?  If you were all wise you wouldn’t be on this planet. If those you need to forgive were all wise they wouldn’t be on this planet. Every living soul on this planet conducts themselves according to the best of their abilities, in their view.  It is only with hindsight that there may be regret or guilty feelings. If you were all to understand this and forgive then matters could be laid to rest.

 

Not everybody is wise. How hard it is to forgive someone who has done terrible things to another. Again we ask you to look beyond.  Why did that individual behave in that way? What was there in that person’s upbringing that brought about that characteristic, that nature?  We know it is not easy and we are simply asking you to look a little further so that you may put forgiveness into action.


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